Ten MORE Things No One Tells First Time Moms and Dads
My very most popular post is my list of Tips and Tricks People Forget to Tell New Moms. I’m super excited to bring you even more things I’ve learned the hard way that people should tell first time moms and dads!
These are spot on! Why didn’t anyone tell me these things with my first baby? Helpful things to know as a first time mom (or dad).
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After that first post of things no one tells new moms I had lots of readers share the other things they wish someone had told them and in my own daily life I kept finding myself thinking I should have put this on the list. So in no particular order here are More helpful tidbits I wish someone had told me as a new mom.
1. EVERYTHING is a Phase
Why was I so concerned about holding my baby for nap? My days of holding a baby (or kid now) who will let me hold him are numbered. When they are babies and toddlers things change so fast.
Great list of helpful and strange things no one thinks to tell new moms and dads.
( not a sticker but this was about the age when I tried the “sticker fun”).
2. Babies Eat Stickers.
When Teddy was smaller I thought he ‘d have fun with stickers so I stuck a few on him only to find him trying to shove them into his mouth. What!? That’s like a thing? I was totally paying attention so Teddy wasn’t in any real danger since I snatched them away before he got them in his mouth.
3. Balloons are Really Dangerous for Babies.
For the record I knew this one but I’ve been shocked at the number of people I’ve met who don’t know that balloons are very dangerous to babies and toddlers or who tried to give my baby a balloon but not watch him with it or were about to let him try and chew on one. Don’t let babies have balloon unless you can give them 100% of your attention. Since most babies put everything in their mouths I vote to keep them completely away from their faces and in your own hands just to be on the safe side.
4. Try and Read All the Books While You’re Pregnant.
You go from one thing to another and you ‘d think you ‘d have time to research your parenting options and decide how you feel about different things but you guys it all happens so fast and if you’re like most people you won’t be getting much sleep so your brain isn’t going to be working. Not that I think you can totally plan but I would have liked to know a few of the different approaches to the whole sleep thing and ideas to try BEFORE I was in the throws of extreme sleep deprivation. I ‘d recommend taking a peek at things you think might come up through the first 2 years.
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( photo courtesy of See Kate Sew).
5. You Don’t Have to Be Paranoid of Sleep.
I’ve already mentioned (and if you’ve been around here from a while you KNOW) we got terrible sleep while Teddy was a baby. Like until he was around 2. I’m a natural worrier and let me tell you nothing makes you worry more than the possibility that your baby is not safe. There are so many sad stories about babies dying in their sleep. Every year 3,500 babies while they are asleep, that’s more than 10 times those that die in car accidents. I think almost all moms remember that first time their baby slept through the night mostly because we weren’t asleep ourselves. We were all stressed that something might be not sure but wrong if we should check on the baby and risk waking him or her.
If you’re not familiar with the device it is the only baby monitor that uses hospital technology– pulse oximetry– designed to alert you if your baby stops breathing. All that amazing technology is placed into a tiny, snuggly baby sock that the little one wears to bed. I did not have many opportunities to sleep since my baby was a “bad sleeper”.
6. Swim Diapers Don’t Hold Pee.
I must have just been lucky because I put Teddy in swim diapers on the way to the pool MANY times. That is how they keep from getting heavy in the water. I guess it makes sense in retrospect but really why didn’t someone tell me this!!!? So there I told you.
Random but helpful info about diapers people forget to tell new moms.
( pool time with the cousins, he was SO small).
7. It’s Easy to Mix Up Swim Diapers and Pull Ups.
So this is a sillier one but really, why do swim diapers and pull ups have to look SO similar? Color and all. Let me tell you how you can tell the difference when you’re in the water: the diaper will swell to about 10 times the size of normal, get heavy, and the absorbent beads can burst out of the diaper. I’ve been guilty of the mix up and been around to witness more than one other mom who managed to mix up the two diapers. If you pay attention when getting ready to swim you’ll be fine but it’s so easy just to go fast and mix them up.
8. You Might Want to Hold Off On Some Gifts.
Especially if you receive a lot of newborn sized clothing you will probably be tempted to wash those puppies up and get them all cozy in a drawer but some babies are born too big for new born sizes. You might think you want it before baby is here but once you try it out it might not be your thing.
I totally agree these are really helpful for new parents but for some reason no one things to tell first time moms and dads. Great list.
9. The One Month Mark Is Hard.
Maybe it’s not exactly one month for everyone but there will be a time near the beginning where you think oh my gosh we’ve had this baby for a while now and it’s still SO HARD what is going on. You’ll have less help, if you had visitors or people coming in, or if you or your partner that had baby leave and have to start working again. You’ll just feel like you ought to be able to “do more” or that things should be easier but they aren’t.
10. Decide What You Want Your Hospital Visits to Look Like.
Things happen fast (even if they happen really slowly) and you are so tired after giving birth and the hormones and emotions are raging. You know what everyone else could see the baby later. She didn’t push because you know I had just given birth but I wish that I had decided before I went in that was just one of the things we were going to do because in the moment I felt disgusting, exhausted, and the idea of being photographed sounded horrible but now I feel like I really missed out.
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11. You Get to Determine the Type of Parent You Want to Be.
You can even question the doctors and honestly I encourage you to do that if anything feels wrong check things out do research and ask them to explain their reasoning. And remember you can change your mind and try different things out as you learn and experience more. See what works for you, your family, and this particular baby.
Why didn’t anyone tell me these things with my first baby? When they are toddlers and babies things change so fast. For the record I knew this one but I’ve been shocked at the number of people I’ve met who don’t know that balloons are very dangerous to babies and toddlers or who tried to give my baby a balloon but not watch him with it or were about to let him chew and try on one. If you’re not familiar with the device it is the only baby monitor that uses hospital technology– pulse oximetry– designed to alert you if your baby stops breathing. You might think you want it before baby is here but once you try it out it might not be your thing.